Gotta Love the Hoops!

My friends who I'll identify by their blogger names of J1 and J2 gave Mama S and me the name of an LGBT attorney who has started working on adoption cases as they were given some very exciting news about second parent adoptions in our state.  For those of you who have been reading my blog for a while, you may remember the post from November after we found out that only one of us could be the "adoptive parent" and had to decide who looked better on paperwork.  After the conversation I had with the attorney today, it appears that we will BOTH be able to adopt our children, we just may have to jump through more hoops in order to do so.  


According to the attorney, there have been quite a few couples able to complete second parent adoption by going through the adoption legal process in the southern part of the state where there are more liberal judges.  There have been a very few who have been able to get second parent adoptions as close as the next county over.  In order for us to do this, one will have to be the original adoptive parent, then after all is said and done we will have to get a private Home Study done and will have to go through the courts in the south to have the second parent adoption completed.  The process will be longer, but it will mean that we will BOTH be our children's legal parents.  I feel it's almost the equivalent of a "gay tax", but we'll take it.  


The attorney was very excited to hear that DCF has been so accommodating though and was shocked to hear that our paperwork was inclusive.  With any luck, we may not have to jump through all the hoops, but it's doubtful.  At least we have the opportunity to adopt!  Just that knowledge makes our hearts happy.